Why did you even come? They already have their friend group. There's no room for you.
You have nothing of
value to say, and even if you did, you would just sound stupid.
See? They’re not interested in talking to you.
They’re not interested in you at all.
Insecurity is a vicious feeling that festers in the mind and
heart. It will eat you alive. It builds walls between us and keeps
friendships from moving forward. It causes
relationships to sit idle and dead like stagnant water.
In the past month, I dealt with deafening thoughts of
insecurity that threatened to immobilize me. I felt burdened at work, home, and
church.
Thankfully, God’s truth is stronger than the enemy’s attacks
and I realized something was not right. I stepped out in faith and you know what I
found? I was not alone. Other women in my
life were transparent about their own struggles. All of us felt that sting of insecurity and
realized it wasn’t a coincidence.
Here’s the thing. The
enemy will do everything in his power to keep us separated.
“Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring
lion, seeking someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8
Be on guard, friends. The devil is prowling.
It’s no coincidence two of my sweet friends quoted 1
Peter 5:8 to me this past week. I also
know it’s not an accident they both described the hunting patterns of
lions to illustrate the same point. Lions don’t attack a whole herd. Instead,
they look for the stragglers; the ones separated from their group.
Isn’t that
so fitting? It makes perfect sense the
devil would want to keep us separated from our community. Of course he would want to make us feel like
we don’t have a place. We’re much easier
to devour.
So, friends, how do we combat those feelings of insecurity that
make us want to shy away from companionship and community? Relationships are the key.
1. Pursue an active
prayer life.
Spending quality time with someone is the best way to get to
know them. The same is true in our
relationship with our Creator. When we dedicate time in our day to be alone
with God, both in talking to Him and listening, our relationship with Him
strengthens. James 4:8 says if you draw near to God, He will draw near to you.
2. Keep active in a
community of believers.
The enemy wants you lonely and alone. He wants to convince you that you don’t
matter, that you have nothing to offer, and that no one wants you. His goal is to break you away from your
support system.
Don’t let him!
If you feel like building a wall around
yourself, that’s a great indicator to build a bridge instead. Reach out to those around you and keep
showing up. Be honest about your struggles because there's always another woman feeling the same way. I promise, it’s worth it.
3. Fill your life
with truth.
If you want to have a better understanding of God’s
character, look no further than the Word.
It is filled with truth we can preach to ourselves when the enemy starts
prowling.
The other night in church, small coincidences had me
doubting friendships and my place in my church family. The devil was hurling negative thoughts at me
like small grenades of insecurity. I was battling the enemy's lies.
A few days before, my friend Suzanne reminded me that as
Christians the devil can’t possess us, but he can sure oppress us. In church
that night I was weighed down with that oppression. It was suffocating.
Then the light broke through.
My God tells me I don’t need to find my worth
in the way people feel about me, or who my friends are. My worth is found in Him alone. He’s the one who sustains me. He brings me
peace.
The devil started the battle, but God’s truth bomb won the war.
And just like that, the burden fell off my shoulders and I no
longer felt shackled by insecurity. God
is my deliverer and my firm foundation.
A final thought…
If you’re not currently struggling
with the enemy’s attacks, can you do me a favor? Find the person who is standing at the edge
of your community with one foot out the door and reach out to her. Be
transparent with your own struggles and use that opportunity to speak truth
into her life. Ask to pray with her and for her. Show her, that despite what the
devil is whispering in her ear, she is still loved. Learn to recognize the struggle
in others and reach into the darkness.
“Bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
Galatians 6:2
In doing so, we build up our community and build a hedge
against the enemy looking to devour us one by one.
3 comments:
I found myself nodding with conviction as I read your post - so very, very true! I'm an introvert, so there are times when that evil one convinces me that I need "alone" time because "I'm an introvert". Sure, I do need to recharge, but being alone WITHOUT God is not the answer - He needs to be with me at all times! And being in the community of believers to be strengthened is so important. (What a liar that satan is!) Thank you for writing this!
These are great reminders to combat the enemy. Where there is truth and light there cannot be darkness and lies. God bless!
I read your blogs and feel like I am reading my own diary. I have always struggled to "fit-in". I hide the insecurities because I am a very social person but usually end up feeling like my presence is a bother. You are very brave to display all of your insecurities so publicly.
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